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Identify However The F*ck You Want: Pride Month

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I’ve got a question for you.

Why the actual F do you care what other people identify as?

It literally has NOTHING to do with you.

That person is out in the world trying to find a way for themselves to feel comfortable in their body and life.

Again, it has NOTHING to do with you.

They are looking for a community to feel A PART of, as they have likely felt APART from the rest of society for a very long time.

Sure, some people think we don’t need to "label" everything… and I see your point. ANNNND, I know that having a name for something helps you connect with others in the same boat 🛶.

The Cambridge Dictionary claims "identity" can mean, "the fact of being or feeling the same."

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And honestly, it can be very helpful to our psyche to feel a part of a group. That "sameness" feels like home. For example, when I discovered I had ADHD, it helped me have a name for what I was experiencing. Once I had that name, I felt like I could find my people in the ADHD and Neurodivergent communities. I could also then seek out resources and support.

Do I NEED to identify as someone with ADHD? No. One may say that it doesn't really matter to have a title for how my brain works - That we all work differently. However, it helps me have a better understanding of who I am, how I show up in the world, and how to be my best self. Additionally, it gives me the language to explain to others where I need extra support, and where I thrive.

Learning more about yourself is always helpful. Please don't let others stand in the way of that.

Whether you are identifying as a different gender, sexuality, or anything else, I welcome you to do so.

**This comes with the small caveat that it doesn't hurt another group objectively. For example, pretending to be a different race like Rachel Dolezal who pretended to be black. I won't get into why blackface does not fit into my argument. If you want to debate this, we have bigger fish to fry. Just take a peak at the history of minstrel shows , and maybe also racism in general, before you dive into discussion [read:argument] with me.

The overarching theme here is... if it has nothing to do with you, shut up and let that person LIVE.

Gay, trans, bi, pan, heteroflexible, non-binary, woman, man... don't care! You are perfect to me. I will see you for how you show up in the world, and how you choose to identify. I will call you by the pronouns you ask for. I will honour your wishes.

Happy Pride month babies!

Share love, light and understanding. ✨💫

Sharing hate and discrimination is not welcomed on my site or in my presence.

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